Feeling supported and understood can make all the difference in feeling like we can or can’t handle something. It’s the tears that you don’t cry that will drown you, not the ones you do.

Parental teaching often happens at an unconscious level: when parents are excited by and approve a child’s behaviour, the messages they give are often permissions; however, when parents feel threatened by a child’s behaviour, the messages expressed are often injunctions. Permissions are just as the word implies – giving the child permission to do something. … Read more

Stephen Porgess’ Polyvagal theory is a collection of evolutionary, neuroscientific and psychological claims pertaining to the role of the vagus nerve in emotion regulation, social connection and fear response.Here are some diagrams which may be helpful in identifying and coping with your triggers and responses.